In the past 18 years, I have developed a skill I call resourcing. To make it this far, I had to pick up so many tricks, trades, comforts, supports, and a little of the magic. Not everything I tried was a success. Some of it was ridiculous. I probably won’t go into the ridiculous. My job now is to resource others: specifically, to model resourcing and teach people to do it for themselves. I do this using the SPEAK model for self-advocacy
By this point, readers of my blog have discovered that my 3 major chronic conditions are/were Bipolar Disorder, Ovarian Cancer, and FNS. (Of course, there are the ones I don’t think about much- allergies, asthma, thyroid, being overweight, etc). One example of resourcing is to reflect on the 4 categories that have worked for me: People, Adventures, Things, and Healthcare (See what I did there- I love those acronyms: PATH)
This is my PATH:
The People: This is a list of the people in my life who are a part of my support community. I reach out to them for questions I have, support I need, and to offer my support. Having a support community makes all the difference in the world. I never feel like I am alone and that I am facing challenges by myself.
- Long distance/local friends
- Students I work alongside
- Co- workers
- Up with People
The Adventures: The adventures are the parts of my life that add flavor, experiences, memories, and something to remember during difficult times. I can remember the adventures I have had and look forward to new ones. These provide hope.
- Riding in a helicopter
- Going on rollercoasters
- Spending time in Nature
- TYRING NEW THINGS
The Things: The things are tangible resources that make my life a little more comfortable. They give me alternatives to just taking medicine. They can provide new sources of information and guide me to try everything I can to be well
- Books: Here is a VERY short list of some of my favorites: DBT Workbook for Anxiety, Wellness Recovery Action Plan , Just One Thing, Love You Forever, Behind Happy Faces, Man’s Search for Meaning, Unquiet Mind, all books by SARK, and There is No Good Card for This: What to say and Do When Life is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love
- Essential Oils
- Movies- I have an awesome thing called MoviePass where I pay a certain amount monthly and can see a movie in the theaters every 24 hours. They have specials all the time
- Crafts- vision boards, collages, painting, needle felting, melty beads
Healthcare: These are things I do to make sure I am healthy, resourceful, and compliant with my healthcare.
- Commitment to meds
- Advocating for financial assistance
- Building the best care team of healthcare professionals- You do have a choice
- Knowing my body and listening
- Showing up
- Preparing for appointments
- Trying even the things that are scary as Hell
I invite you to explore you PATH and determine your resources and things that make you well. Check out any of the things I linked. As always, please share, like, comment, follow my blog, and send me any questions. Check out this website for more resources.