The best way I get through life is to be prepared. I have a plan in place for times when I need to address my bigger feelings such as sadness, anger, loneliness, hurt, disappointment, fear, nervousness, excitement, love, inspiration, hope, and anticipation. When you read through that list, you may not have been expecting “positive” feelings. In my life, my emotions can be very big and magnified. I have learned to accept this because it is hard to change who I am and I don’t think I necessarily have to.
Because my emotions arrive somewhat like a tidal wave, I have discovered they aren’t going to magically go away and I have to find ways to feel calm and safe when they rush in. Even my excitement and motivation come with a strong force. People who know me have most likely seen the wave pretty quickly. I sometimes feel apologetic. Really, I want to apologize to myself for the discomfort.
Instead of getting into the big cycle of judgement, blame, or embarrassment, I have learned that I have to feel my emotions, AND I have the choice to handle them however I want. The way I do this is to accept my discomfort and use my VERY LONG list of coping skills. Coping skills don’t have to be this big ordeal. They can simply be a distraction. Sometimes, they are very productive. Many times, the first thing I try isn’t the thing that works. At times, I have to try and combine multiple things in hopes for a good outcome.
My top coping skills are:
- Calling my friends and family to ask for help
- Walking around the lake
- Doing laundry
- Going to the movies
- Working out at the pool
- Making crafts
- Going out to eat
- Talking to my therapist
- Scrolling through Facebook
- Leaving my house
- Getting a pedicure
- Using essential oils
- Looking through my pictures
- Using grounding techniques like tapping, meditation, and observing things around me
- Spending time being silly with my Best Friend/Roommate, Rob
Those are just a few of my many. I found this list of 99 coping skills if you are interested in creating your own list and need inspiration. These skills are good to have handy in your mind because we all need them at some point or another. There does not even have to be a big event or feeling to use them. For the most part, we are all coping with simply being alive.